Candi wrote on Apr 23rd, 2009 at 3:27am:Secrets that can ruin a freindship/relationship if not told.
A friendship that can be ruined by ANY 'secret' wasn't worth having in the first place.
And if one is especially fussy about the other's 'secrets' when it comes to a relationship, then one should do as Michelle Obama did with Barack, have a reliable source (her bro) check out the potential mate upfront.

As they say, 'trust but verify'. It is the scientific way. There is no 'lemon law' when it comes to a relationship.